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Izzy | The Sunday Reads's avatar

Ella this is SO relatable — Lucy was right. I’ve been feeling overwhelmed and burnt out while also feeling angry and guilty over the fact that I’m don’t have anything horrible or very stressful going on. It’s a hard contradiction and our minds fight it and it reinforces the exhausted cycle.

Personally I’m working on doing one task at a time at work, moving my body (which sucks that it helps haha), and making one plan outside my apartment a week!

Oh and your dad sounds hilarious and lovely.

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Ella's avatar

Okay I’m so glad it’s not just me!! The guilt feels so unproductive as well, it’s a vicious cycle. You’re sooo right about moving your body, I never want to do it but then I never regret it afterwards. One step at a time is the only way to go 🌸

& thank you, I’m very lucky to have them both!!!

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Michelle's avatar

Substack dinner party!! God that would be the dream.

This was relatable and just 'good' to read after a really busy and overwhelming few weeks myself. Something a friend of mine said to me was to consider that it's easier to add to your plate than take it away, and that's so true with a busy day. I swear my busy days are just 'life' but it's a reminder that I could still be doing less. So, I am doing less! Stretching a task to the next day, rather than cram 84579 things in after work. Relaxing with some TV and just doing that, rather than layer it with hoovering or another household task.

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Ella's avatar

Ahhh Michelle you are bubbling over with good advice. I'm 100% taking this with me into next week. Once you've got a busy brain it's so tempting to think you could be doing just one more thing, as if what you HAVE done isn't enough already!

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Michelle's avatar

It's so hard not to do all the things, I totally empathise 😂

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Florentyna's avatar

The reality-checking from your dad when all you want is to have a mini moan is so relatable 😂 As is the rest of this post. Spot on, as ever!x

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Ella's avatar

Hahahaha so annoying!! Let me moan please sir??? Always the voice of reason 😂 thank you for reading Florentyna!!! <3

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Caroline Beuley's avatar

ugh I too am in a phase of feeling frantic so this really resonated! thanks for sharing :)

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Ella's avatar

Thank you so much for reading Caroline!! 💕

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Jenna Nicole Stevens's avatar

Oh Ella, I’ve been feeling this recently too. And I’m probably the least busy I’ve ever been (not counting lockdown). I normally write when I’m feeling emotional but the words just feel lost the moment, and I honestly, I’m struggling with it.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My husband tells me similar things to what your Dad told you, and sometimes I find it hard to get my head around because I’m so stuck in the hole I’ve made myself, that his lighter point of view doesn’t come to me straight away.

Thank you so much for sharing, it’s really resonated and made me feel less alone 🤍

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Ella's avatar

Jenna thank you so much for reading, and I'm glad it resonated with you - it's nice to feel like we're not the only ones feeling like this! I'm the same, I'd usually be bubbling over with words to write at the moment but don't seem to be giving myself the time to find them. We're in this together! <3

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Jenna Nicole Stevens's avatar

We definitely are! The words will return when they’re ready x

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Soph's avatar

I've been feeling the exact same way as of late. Like everyone else is running ahead and I'm stuck on a treadmill not going anywhere. It's been a RUT to say the least - you're absolutely not alone and I love your mindset within this piece. We can all get bogged down but we're only human <3

Also, totally ready for that Substack girlies dinner party whenever you're ready

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Ella's avatar

Okay this comment section just goes to show that we're not the only ones 😅 I feel like the substack girlies dinner party would just pull all of us out of the rut and we would never be lost for words again??

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Soph's avatar

Yessss I think you’re right!!

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Rebecca Rocket's avatar

Synchronicities keep me going, but whenever I don't notice them, I think they must still be there, and I am missing them.... Still, the rainbows definitely count for something!

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Ella's avatar

💕Rebecca I LOVE this. Yes yes yes!! Thank you for reading!

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