God I’m SO glad you asked what was so bad with coffee shop dates because I was thinking this as soon as I started reading 😭 The internet is literally the worst place for comparisons - I’ve really noticed since deleting IG/TikTok that I compare myself/my life/my relationships much, much less. And I’m also more in the moment instead of hyperanalysing it all!
I am a coffee shop TRUTHER. That's my favourite way to catch up with friends! They can turn anything into a negative these days, it's sooo boring. Thank you for reading Soph, appreciate you!! 💙
Oh goodness, I'm totally the coffee date friend. I didn't realize we've gone mad enough to think that's a bad thing and this is now a hot internet topic. I don't even want to be the Saturday night friend! And do what? Scream at each other in a loud place without having an actual conversation? No thanks, been there done that. I'll happily be the coffee date friend. I, however, can also understand that it often represents something bigger. The sense of community has declined with the increase of social media. And being seen as 'just' the coffee date friend might make whoever brought this into the world as the back up, the uncredited supporting character. Which also makes sense, in a way. But yeah, we have the power to alter the course at any time. If it's not what brings us joy, we can move on. The over-analyzing is just... not helping.
YES! We end up getting wound up over things we may not even want! Ugh, social media has done so much damage to relationships and communication. Ironic that something that should aid it has actually done the opposite. Thank you so much for reading Diana and taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment, I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts! 💙
The micro trends for personalities are exhausting, I do feel for younger generations growing up with this - age certainly helps you see through them a little more!
Really enjoyed this piece Ella! The Internet really loves to make a good thing bad, doesn't it? I have so much friendship anxiety already – so glad I'm not on IG and TikTok to see more of these because it'd send me over the edge 😂 Coffee shop dates are sort of the best friendship dates in your thirties because we're all exhausted and time-poor, plus it's great for seeing pals that have children!
Ooo and thanks for my very kind mention, you angel ❤️
Thank you Michelle! Honestly, no wonder people are so self-conscious when there's so much content designed to make you question yourself. Definitely better to steer clear I think!
Being an adult for me means that coffee dates are often the only time that I get to hang with friends at all. It’s a comfort really and I can’t ever imagine that feeling like I’m failing as a friend. Life is hard, social media forcing us into boxes that don’t need to be there is ridiculous and needs to stop. I loved your article. 🤍
Ella I could not agree more with this!! I feel like every time I get on the internet it presents me with something new to worry about! There are already enough real things to worry about without having to wonder if you're the "coffee date friend" haha! Thanks for this :)
At this rate the internet just needs to be avoided at all costs. We have enough to deal with already! Thank you so much for reading Caroline and for your comment!
This was a great piece! Sigh.. the internet is exhausting and I’m so happy I don’t have other forms of SM outside of Substack. I think coffee dates are one of the best dates☕️. I wish everyone would go outside and inhale fresh air instead of trying to forcefully insert themselves in these made up boxes on the internet.
God I’m SO glad you asked what was so bad with coffee shop dates because I was thinking this as soon as I started reading 😭 The internet is literally the worst place for comparisons - I’ve really noticed since deleting IG/TikTok that I compare myself/my life/my relationships much, much less. And I’m also more in the moment instead of hyperanalysing it all!
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I am a coffee shop TRUTHER. That's my favourite way to catch up with friends! They can turn anything into a negative these days, it's sooo boring. Thank you for reading Soph, appreciate you!! 💙
Oh goodness, I'm totally the coffee date friend. I didn't realize we've gone mad enough to think that's a bad thing and this is now a hot internet topic. I don't even want to be the Saturday night friend! And do what? Scream at each other in a loud place without having an actual conversation? No thanks, been there done that. I'll happily be the coffee date friend. I, however, can also understand that it often represents something bigger. The sense of community has declined with the increase of social media. And being seen as 'just' the coffee date friend might make whoever brought this into the world as the back up, the uncredited supporting character. Which also makes sense, in a way. But yeah, we have the power to alter the course at any time. If it's not what brings us joy, we can move on. The over-analyzing is just... not helping.
YES! We end up getting wound up over things we may not even want! Ugh, social media has done so much damage to relationships and communication. Ironic that something that should aid it has actually done the opposite. Thank you so much for reading Diana and taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment, I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts! 💙
The micro trends for personalities are exhausting, I do feel for younger generations growing up with this - age certainly helps you see through them a little more!
Also, thank you so much for the mention 🥹🫶 x
Totally agree, the older I get the more I can see these internet fads for what they are!
Really enjoyed this piece Ella! The Internet really loves to make a good thing bad, doesn't it? I have so much friendship anxiety already – so glad I'm not on IG and TikTok to see more of these because it'd send me over the edge 😂 Coffee shop dates are sort of the best friendship dates in your thirties because we're all exhausted and time-poor, plus it's great for seeing pals that have children!
Ooo and thanks for my very kind mention, you angel ❤️
Thank you Michelle! Honestly, no wonder people are so self-conscious when there's so much content designed to make you question yourself. Definitely better to steer clear I think!
Being an adult for me means that coffee dates are often the only time that I get to hang with friends at all. It’s a comfort really and I can’t ever imagine that feeling like I’m failing as a friend. Life is hard, social media forcing us into boxes that don’t need to be there is ridiculous and needs to stop. I loved your article. 🤍
Coffee dates are here to stay!! The internet can try all it wants but it will never make me hate a coffee shop. Thank you so much for reading! 💙
As always Ella you absolutely hit the nail on the head. There is so much noise out there on social media
That's exactly what it is - unnecessary noise!! Thank you for reading Izzy 💕
Ella I could not agree more with this!! I feel like every time I get on the internet it presents me with something new to worry about! There are already enough real things to worry about without having to wonder if you're the "coffee date friend" haha! Thanks for this :)
At this rate the internet just needs to be avoided at all costs. We have enough to deal with already! Thank you so much for reading Caroline and for your comment!
Loved this, as per usual ❤️ comparison is the thief of joy x
Thank you Lauren!! 💕 louder for the people in the back!!
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This was a great piece! Sigh.. the internet is exhausting and I’m so happy I don’t have other forms of SM outside of Substack. I think coffee dates are one of the best dates☕️. I wish everyone would go outside and inhale fresh air instead of trying to forcefully insert themselves in these made up boxes on the internet.